What to do if the father is unknown?

There may be situations where the father of a child is not known. Or he is known, but it is uncertain whether he is the real father. These kinds of situations can be very difficult. For the child, the presumed father, but also for the mother, this is stressful and difficult. An emotional rollercoaster is the right name for such a situation. Here is what to do.


Recognition is the first step towards parenthood, and that is the first thing that should happen. Preferably, you solve the situations in a non-legal way. This saves everyone money, time, energy and a whole lot of emotions. You can therefore also just arrange it together. A normal DNA testing for paternity will then suffice. You can get this in the form of a home paternity test. The father and the child then both have to give their DNA in a sample. This sample can be a saliva as well as a blood sample, both are possible. You can then send this to a lab and the results are shared confidentially. If there is a match, then there is almost 100% certainty of a biological father. The tests are about 99.99999% reliable. If it cannot be arranged together, a legal procedure has to be started. In this legal procedure the paternity will be established. This has to be done with a legal paternity test. The only difference is the way it is taken. With a legal test one has to take the test on location. Paternity is then established or not, as is alimony.

You are the father

Once you’ve been determined to be the father, it’s time to act like one. It is wise to build a bond with your child. The DNA test shows that you are the father, because the DNA of you and your child is similar. DNA is hereditary and a kind of building block of your body. Our body contains DNA in every cell and determines to a certain extent our character traits but also our physical characteristics. You therefore always resemble your parents in one way or another. Whether this is outwardly or inwardly; it always is. Try to take advantage of this and see in which areas you correspond with your child. You do this by simply spending time with your child and trying to understand him or her.